Causes of orgasm disorders in women

1. Physical Causes

Gynecological and systemic diseases, gynecological surgeries, chronic illnesses such as hypertension and diabetes, alcohol and substance use, menopause, and aging are the most important physical causes of orgasm disorders. Additionally, medications used regularly, such as antidepressants, antihistamines, and antihypertensives, can also cause orgasm problems.

2. Sexual Schemas, Sexual Myths, and Incorrect Prejudices

Incorrect beliefs about the body, sexual numbness, exaggeratedly high expectations regarding sexuality, negative family attitudes, the belief that sexuality is shameful, sinful, or dirty, and parents' views on sexuality can lead to orgasm problems. Furthermore, partners experiencing sexuality solely as penis-vagina intercourse without integrating the soul, body, and mind is one of the most important factors preventing a woman from reaching orgasm.

3. Insufficient Stimulation

Adequate sexual stimulation is a mixture of physical contact, imagination, and emotion. The physical components of whether an experience is stimulating are the sensitivity, type, and duration of the contact.

Generally, it is more difficult and takes longer for a woman to reach orgasm than for a man to reach his peak. Therefore, it is possible for women to reach orgasm very easily thanks to what we call the 6 A rule in women: appropriate time, appropriate place, appropriate partner, appropriate stimulation, appropriate duration and intensity of stimulation, and appropriate requests. However, studies indicate that nearly 90% of women cannot reach orgasm psychologically.

Psychologically, to reveal inner desires and urges, women's souls must first be caressed. The process of preparing for sexual life, becoming aroused, stimulation, and focusing takes much longer for women compared to men. Therefore, before moving on to having sex, it is necessary to touch the woman until a strong desire emerges in her, to make her feel special and valuable, to make her feel that she is worthy of being loved and desired, and to say these things frequently by talking.

4. Rejection of the Spouse

The prevalence of arranged marriages in our country can lead to frequent rejection of the spouse in women experiencing orgasm problems. If a woman loved someone else before getting married and married the person she is with against her will, she may feel as if she is betraying the person she loved while making love.

5. Relational Conflicts and Problems

Sex is one of the best ways for couples to share their bodies, souls, and emotions, to release their anger, and to resist life's difficulties. When there is no good sex, one of the fundamental communication channels between the couple is damaged.

The emotional, physical, and spiritual disappointment brought about by a bad sex life causes both partners to blame each other and leads to a loss of self-confidence as a natural result of sexual inadequacy. This failure in communication is the root cause of problems in sexuality. Women with orgasm problems, in addition to developing feelings of guilt about sexuality and negative prejudices against masturbation, feel uncomfortable talking about sexual activities with their spouses. Couples also become increasingly reluctant to talk to each other about their desires and sexual pleasures.

6. Anxieties

It leads to fight-or-flight responses that block sexual arousal, as well as defense and protection behaviors. Parents who are anxious because their children in the next room are coughing inevitably lose their interest in sexuality. A woman who fears she will suffer pain during intercourse has difficulty staying aroused while approaching sexual intercourse.

Economic anxieties, divorce, fear of pregnancy, unemployment, and sick children are other situations that create anxiety. Apart from this, positive events such as getting a promotion at work, buying a new house, or having a new child can also be a cause of stress and anxiety. Fears related to separation, independence, being alone, power, and control from childhood can negatively affect sexual life in adulthood. Fear and anxiety can manifest in various forms.

The list goes on: fear of the opposite sex, fear of being punished, fear of pregnancy, fear of being hurt, fear of being dependent on someone else, fear of contracting a sexually transmitted disease, fear of being afraid. Anxiety and fear settle into a person's self, causing the person to secrete a stress hormone called adrenaline, which in turn causes tension in the love muscles and deterioration in sexuality; sexual satisfaction gradually decreases and orgasm problems develop.

7. Fear of Making Mistakes and Losing Control

When women are afraid of making mistakes or have feelings of losing control, they cannot give themselves to sex and relax, and they cannot reach orgasm. Some women express the loss of control as urinating or defecating, or accidentally saying the name of an ex-lover.

8. Taking on the Role of a Spectator

This means obsessively focusing on the quality of the relationship. The woman finds herself lost in thoughts during sexual activity, questioning her own performance: Does he like me? Can I satisfy him? What should I do now? Such thoughts occupy the woman's mind. This situation is generally more common in perfectionist women. These women also experience concentration problems, and because they cannot relax and loosen up, they cannot focus themselves on making love and the reassuring pleasure, and therefore cannot reach orgasm.

9. Sexual Dysfunctions in Partners

If the woman's partner has premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction problems, the woman's inability to reach orgasm will naturally arise on its own.

10. Becoming a Mother at an Early Age Before Becoming a Woman

Having a child as soon as one gets married hinders the stages of becoming a woman; because the woman becomes a mother before she learns how to reach orgasm, motherhood hormones prevent this.

11. Low Sexual Self-Confidence

If a woman criticizes herself excessively or does not like her body, she may experience orgasm problems. It is closely related to a weak self-image. The thought "I am clumsy, I am inadequate, I am worthless" can eventually make the person truly clumsy. It can reduce her sexual power. It can turn her into someone who avoids sexuality.

12. Performance Anxiety

The fear of not being successful often lies at the root of sexual problems. It is said that this feeling is mostly in men. In women, thoughts such as "If I am not successful enough in bed, my husband's eyes may wander elsewhere, he may cheat on me, and he may not like me" can arise. A woman with these thoughts may enter into a compulsion to have sex in the best way possible. This then leads to her inability to give herself to sex and relax, and to orgasm problems.

13. Sexual Trauma

Traumas such as sexual abuse, rape, and incest in early childhood lead to orgasm problems. It negatively affects the woman's beliefs about sexuality. It can cause sexuality to be perceived as something that should not be enjoyed.

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